So, your marriage is in trouble. What are four things that you can do to rebuild that marriage and bring back the spark and passion before it’s too late? Hey, Cody here, a marriage and relationship coach and founder of Better Marriage. We help give you the skills to have a better marriage and relationship. So, what are four things you can do to fix or revive your marriage before it’s too late? Let’s get started.
The first thing is to commit to the relationship. Commit to saving the relationship and to the idea that you’re going to do whatever it takes. You have to say to yourself, “I will do whatever it takes to save this marriage.” As a couple, you have to come together and say, “We are committed to this marriage, and we will do whatever it takes.” How you’re going to do that is not important at this point.
If your marriage is struggling and on the brink of failure, how you’re going to save the marriage is not as important as the commitment to save it. If you can both come together and say, “We want to save this marriage. This marriage is worth saving, and we’re going to fight for it. We are prepared to do whatever it takes,” then that is step number one. Make that commitment and back it up with action.
Which takes me to step number two, which is seeking help. Get help, right? If your marriage has reached the point of falling apart, where it’s failing, the intelligence and skills present within the relationship may not be enough to save it. You’re going to have to seek external input, external help, and external advice. The intelligence that created the current situation is not the same intelligence that will get you out of it. So, seek professional help, seek advice, and education.
Now, step number three to fix a broken marriage before it’s too late is to provide hope in the relationship.
When all hope ends, that’s when people check out of the relationship. As long as there’s hope, people will stay. It’s when hope disappears that the relationship ends, and that’s when people start walking away. So, you have to provide hope in the relationship. You have to inject hope into the relationship so that the other person can see that the light at the end of the tunnel is not a train but hope for happiness.
The way to do that is to genuinely acknowledge the problems within the relationship and the concerns of the other person. Show them that you’re willing to take steps and that you are taking steps to resolve those problems, which provides hope in the relationship. Step number three is to provide hope into the relationship. It is so, so important.
Now, tip number four is really simple but really difficult. Simple does not mean easy; it means it’s not complicated. Step number four is to eliminate all negativity from the relationship. You will be shocked and amazed at the transformation that will take place in your marriage and your relationship if you, or you and your partner, commit to eliminating negativity from the relationship.
If you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say it at all. You might not talk to each other for a week or two if the marriage or the relationship is really bad. It might all be negative right now, and all communication stops for a short period of time because you have nothing good to say. That’s fine. It’s better to say nothing than to communicate negativity.
When I say eliminate negativity, I’m talking about negative thoughts about your partner, negative behaviors towards your partner, negative speech, negative everything. Anything negative at all, eliminate it. Get it out of your head, get it out of your mouth, get it out of your life, get it out of your relationship. You will be absolutely shocked that this one step alone is enough to save every single marriage if you do it. It’s really simple but really difficult. So, that’s step number four: eliminate all negativity.
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That’s it from me. Bless you all, and I’ll talk to you very soon.
