Hey, Cody Butler here from Better Marriage. The question I want to address today is, “What if there’s been sexual infidelity within the marriage? What if there has been an affair? Can my marriage still be saved? Is there still hope for my marriage?” Now, the simple answer to that question is yes, as long as there is breath in the body, there is hope, right?
As long as both people are still in the marriage and both parties are committed to restoring the marriage, in this situation, yes, there is hope, and yes, the marriage certainly can be recovered, restored, and brought back to a place of intimacy, connection, communication, and all of that stuff.
But you’ve got to ask yourself some very hard questions. The first one is, “Is my partner really committed to this?” So, the partner that had the affair, you’ve got to look at where they’re at with us. Are they sorry? Did they confess to this, or did they get caught? How did it come about that the affair or sexual infidelity was discovered? Has it been an ongoing thing? Is this a repeat thing? Are they truly, truly sorry? Now, everybody makes mistakes, right? Everybody makes mistakes, and we all do things that we wish we hadn’t. We’re human beings, and there are certainly circumstances where somebody will take an action unexcusably. So, there’s no excuse for it.
There’s absolutely no place and no reason and no excuse for this in any marriage whatsoever. There’s no excuse for it. Let me reiterate that. But it could happen, right? Maybe your husband was off on a business trip, had too much to drink in a bar, and something happened, and he’s genuinely sorry. He genuinely regrets what happened. It was genuinely a one-off. It was genuinely a mistake, and he’s come to you with the hope of actually restoring the marriage.
This is a hopeful situation, and yes, there certainly is hope in this situation. Now, if you have a repeat offender, if you have somebody who is repeatedly having adulterous affairs, repeatedly engaging in sexual adultery within the marriage, and they’ve been caught, let’s say they haven’t confessed to it, they’ve been caught, are they really sorry?
I don’t know, right? So, if the question is, is the person genuinely sorry? Are they genuinely remorseful? Is there genuinely a desire to rectify the situation, or is there something else going on? If they fall into category A, they’re genuinely remorseful, then it was a mistake, and they can clearly see that. Then yes, absolutely 100%, there is hope for you and for your marriage.
If it falls into the other category, if the person is not necessarily remorseful or it’s a repeat offense, then I would have to be a little less hopeful, and I would have to look at that a little bit more and in a little bit more detail. It might be a situation.
Where it is not the best thing for that marriage to continue, at that point, it’s not in your best interest for your mental health, for your physical health, for your spiritual health, for your family, for your children, all of that stuff. So, it depends on the situation. Yes, there is hope, but it depends on the situation.
Now, I hope that helps a little bit. If you’re interested in learning more about this stuff, how we can help you repair, restore your marriage, recover your marriage in as little as eight weeks guaranteed, then we have the Marriage Recovery Program where we work with both individuals and married couples as well.
Sometimes we work with individuals who are very interested in repairing their marriage, but their partner is not necessarily so interested. A lot of times, we work with couples as well. That’s really the best-case scenario, that both people within the relationship are wanting to restore the marriage. They want the marriage to succeed; they just don’t know how to make that happen.
So, if you fall into that category, if you want the marriage to succeed and you just don’t know how, we have that information for you. We have the process for you, and we can show you how to absolutely transform your marriage very, very quickly and certainly in less than eight weeks, guaranteed.
So, if you’re interested in learning more about that and talking to us about that and learning what that involves and what the program is exactly, the Marriage Recovery Program, I encourage you to jump on a call with us and let’s talk about that.
Let’s have a look at what the Marriage Recovery Program is, how it applies to your situation, what the chances of success are in your situation, and how to get started if that’s what you want to do.
