So, your relationship is about to end. Your partner is about to leave you. Well, I’m going to share with you one little trick that could reverse and save your marriage or relationship. Hey Cody here, relationship and marriage consultant, and founder of Better Marriage. Today, I want to talk to you about what to do if your relationship is about to end and your partner is about to walk out on you. I’m going to share with you one little trick that may just save your marriage.
Now, before I go on, let me just say, marriage and relationships are not about tricks and manipulations and stuff like that. It’s about really understanding the other person and building a life together. So, when I say a trick, I don’t mean a circus trick like, “Do this and it’ll save your marriage.” This is something you can do that, if done right, will have an immediate impact on your relationship and will be your best chance at stopping the breakup from happening.
Now, to understand this, let me explain to you when a relationship ends. The relationship ends when hope runs out. When hope runs out, somebody in the relationship gives up. Most people will stick around and persevere with the marriage until all hope is gone.
When they can see that there’s no light at the end of the tunnel or the only light at the end of the tunnel is a train, that’s when they leave.
So, if you want somebody to stay when they’re about to walk out on the relationship, you have to provide hope. Hope is the only thing you can provide that will make the other person stay.
Now, how do you do that? After all, if they’re getting ready to walk out, there’s a lot of water under the bridge, a lot of history. How do you actually get them to believe what you’re saying and to put that hope back into the relationship?
Well, the answer is you’ve got to really dig deep and communicate to them that you understand the problem and that you are working on the solution.
If somebody is getting Communicate ready to walk out on you or maybe you’re getting ready to walk out on somebody in the relationship, if they’re not demonstrating that they even know what the problem is, then there’s absolutely no hope that person is going to fix the problem. It’s just not going to fix itself.
So, what you need to do is effectively communicate that you get it, that you understand what the problem is. Lay it out very clearly, A, B, C, and D. And then, at the very least, tell them that you’re working on a
Now, this happened in my relationship a long time ago when I was early on in my marriage, and my wife was very disillusioned with me because of some of the things that I was doing. The way we turned that around was I acknowledged that this is the problem. I understand what the problem is in the relationship. I’m not oblivious to what’s going on. I understand that this is the problem.
I understand that this is causing you this pain. I understand that this is how you feel about it. And look, here’s what I’m doing about that. I acknowledge that I have this problem, and I’m getting help in this area.
Or you could even just say, “I really don’t know what to do about that, but I would love your help in solving this problem.” That way, you’re just giving some hope back into the relationship.
Now, how much time is this going to buy you? Not much is the answer, right? You’re going to have a very short amount of time to prove that your words are real and they mean something because if the relationship’s about to end, there’s probably very little tolerance and very little trust left.
So if you do this, if you say, “I acknowledge that this is the problem in the relationship. I understand this is what’s causing the breakup, and I’m now doing something. I’m taking action,” you better do something about it.
You better take action because you’ve got a very, very narrow window of opportunity. And if you blow this, if you do this, if you communicate that you actually truly understand the problem and you do nothing about it, then that is all hope of the relationship gone.
Now, if you want some more help on how to grow your relationship, if you want relationship training, there are some links in the video. Check out some of our free masterclasses where I’ll share with you how to communicate better, how to increase the passion, how to grow your relationship back from the ground up, how to bring it back from the brink of divorce.
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