3 Signs You Need Couples Coaching
So, what are three signs that you could really use couples therapy? Hey, Cody Butler here, marriage coach and founder of Better Marriage. What are three signs that might show up in your relationship that would indicate that marriage coaching or marriage counseling could really be a good thing for you?
The first thing I want to talk about, the first warning sign, is no sex or very small amounts of sex in the relationship. If there’s no sex, it’s a sign that the relationship is in real trouble. Nobody is happy at that point. The woman is not getting the communication she needs to feel open to sex, and the man is not getting the sex he needs to feel that he can open up, connect with the woman, and communicate with her.
So, the first problem is if there’s no sex or very small amounts of sex in the relationship. If you’re keeping track of how often you have sex, then there’s not enough sex in the relationship. That is the first sign that there are real problems in the relationship and that coaching might be a good thing for you.
The second sign is constant fighting, constant bickering. Nobody wants to be in a situation where you’re fighting all the time. There’s conflict, there’s tension all the time. It’s not good for anybody, and if it continues, then the marriage is surely going to end or at least turn into something that you really don’t want it to be.
People are only going to be able to tolerate so much fighting before they say, “Enough is enough,” and then separate out of the relationship. Now, the underlying cause of fighting is generally nine times out of ten, it’s going to be communication issues. It’s a lack of communication or a lack of communication skills where one or both parties are not able to communicate their view, or the other party is not really understanding, and this is causing conflict and this is causing arguments and fighting within the relationship.
And the solution to this is to get some communication skills. If you want better communication skills, we’ve got a free workshop. Check out the link in the description where we’ll share with you how to communicate better, how to get more sex, how to have better, more intimate communication, and how to fight less in your relationship. And it’s completely for free.
The third sign is a lack of shared vision or shared goals in the relationship. If there’s not a shared vision to move forward, and if there are not shared goals that you’re working together as a couple, then the relationship ultimately is going to fall on rocky ground and it’s going to fall on hardship. Because it’s that shared vision that keeps you both moving in the same direction and keeps you unified as a couple. Without a shared vision, without those shared goals, then there’s really no point being a couple at all.
You’re both working in two separate directions, living two separate lives, and the benefit of being in a relationship really isn’t there. Particularly if you’re not having sex and you’re fighting a lot, then why even be in a relationship at all, right? So, the third sign is that there’s a lack of shared vision, a lack of shared goals. And obviously, the solution is to build that vision and to start to build those goals together.
And then everything else is going to start to improve from there. If you have a relationship vision and you have communication skills, then everything else is just going to fall into place, and all of the other problems are really going to start to solve themselves.
So, that’s it from me. Bless you all, and we’ll talk to you very soon.
