So, what are some tips to make your marriage stronger than ever?
Hi, Cody Butler here, a marriage coach and founder of Better Marriage. Today, I want to share with you three tips that you can implement into your relationship to make it stronger than ever and to keep it growing and growing and growing.
The First Tip is Talk More.
Now, the first tip is going to be “Talk More.” Talk with your partner more. Studies have shown that successful couples, couples that have happy relationships, talk on average 45 minutes a day with each other, more than couples that don’t have successful relationships and marriages that fail. So, a very simple thing to do is to talk with your partner more. Now, we’re talking about setting aside some time, it might be at the end of the night, at the end of the day, something like that, and really making that effort to get closer and closer to that 45-minute-a-day conversation level.
Now, this is not 45 minutes a day of conversation with your partner. This is 45 minutes a day of additional conversation over and above what you’re having right now. And as I pointed out, studies have shown that couples that do that are far more likely to succeed than couples that don’t.
The Second Tip is Communication Education
Now, that brings me to point number two, which is really to get communication education. Communication is a skill that isn’t taught anywhere. Our parents don’t really teach it to us, for the most part. It definitely isn’t taught in school, and there’s really nowhere in society that provides education on communication.
Now, communication is the key to a successful relationship. Whether you’re going to be happy, whether you’re going to be miserable, whether you’re going to have great sex or no sex, whether a relationship will continue to grow or die, it all comes down to one thing, and that one thing is communication. So, really seek out communication education. And if you want some free education on communication, we’ve got a great free workshop. Links in the description where we’ll teach you how to communicate better, to get more sex, to get more intimate communication, more verbal communication, how to fight less, and to keep your marriage growing in the right direction.
The Three Tip is Relationship Vision.
Now, tip number three is going to be “Relationship Vision.” Really focus on creating a relationship vision for your marriage or for your relationship. A relationship that doesn’t have a common vision has two people moving towards two separate goals, and they can be in any direction. They might possibly be in the same direction, they might be in somewhat the same direction, or they might be in completely opposite directions.
We want to make sure that we have a vision for the relationship where both people in the relationship are moving in the same direction and working towards the same goals. And we’re on the same team. Marriage is a team sport. It’s a team event. It’s not two individuals trying to get a gold medal each. It’s a team sport. And when marriages fail, there’s almost never a unified vision for that marriage.
There’s almost never shared goals where both parties have bought into the vision of the goals for that relationship. And consequently, they start to move in their own directions, and everybody moves towards their own goal, everybody moves towards their own vision. And chances are, those visions and goals are going to be in different directions.
So, it’s really key that as a couple, you sit down and you create a relationship vision, and you have relationship goals. And if you can do this, you’ll find that the relationship stays unified, it stays moving in the same direction.
And if you take the other steps, if you have the communication skills and you’re taking the time to communicate and talk to each other every single day, which can be about these goals, which can be about this shared relationship vision, you’re going to find that your marriage is moving in the right direction, and you’re growing together instead of growing apart.
That’s it from me. Bless you all, and we’ll talk to you all very, very soon.
