Effective Ways on How to Get Your Wife Love You Again
Hi, my name is Cody Butler, a relationship coach and founder of Better Marriage. What do you do when your wife tells you that she doesn’t love you anymore? Well, the first thing that you have to do if you want to solve any problem is to understand what your wife is really saying to you and what the problem really is.
Now, all too often, we look at the problem at a surface level, and we don’t really understand what the problem is. When she says she doesn’t love us anymore, we think that she doesn’t have warm feelings for us or she doesn’t have affection towards us, and this is really not what she’s saying.
To solve this problem and to get her to fall back in love with you again, there are two things that you have to understand: why she fell in love with you in the first place and what are the two things that made her fall in love with you in the first place.
The first one is that she loved the way that you made her feel. Women are very emotional creatures, they’re very feeling-based creatures, and feelings are everything. She loved the way you made her feel when she fell in love with you. And the second thing that she really loved that made her say yes to you was that she saw that a future with you was significantly better than a future without you. So, when you put these two things together, she loves the way she feels around you, she loves the way you make her feel, and her future is bright with you, then of course she’s going to say yes to you.
Now, the second thing to understand here if you want to turn this situation around is that love and feelings are behaviorally based. Attraction is behaviorally based. We’re attracted to behavior, we’re not attracted to features like nose and eyes and stuff like that, particularly for women. So, when we understand that it is behavior that women are attracted to, then we can start to understand that it’s a behavior that must change if we want to win her back.
Being armed with these three facts, we can start to really go to work on making the change. So, the first thing that we have to do is understand and we’ve got to change our behavior if we want to attract her back. But we’ve got to understand where we’re going to change this behavior and what changes are we going to make.
The changes that we make in our behavior have to be very specific, and they have to be directed towards how she feels, the behavior that makes her feel how she wants to feel. And it has to be behavior that leads her to see that a future with you is better than a future without you. If you can change these two things through your behavior, then you can change the relationship, and you can start to win her back. It really is that simple.
